Knowing that you want to make a change in your life is the first positive step to redefining yourself. However, the process is not easy and there are a multitude of pitfalls that people experience when trying to make lasting changes. The biggest challenge people face is in committing to the decisions they want to make. Dean Kosage is a professional life coach and entrepreneur. In his experience, people struggle with what he calls “anchoring their decisions”. This entails that instead of committing themselves fully to becoming the person they want to be, they make compromises and refuse to make the necessary changes to do so.
In a recent interview with the online podcast Unmistakable Creative, Dean described the process of anchoring to one’s decisions that led to the success he has reached today. He tells the story of seeing a group of men walk into a gym, and the impact they had on his life. He realized straight away that these men were accomplished professionals based on just their image. After speaking with them and discussing his desire to be involved in their entrepreneurial world, he shared this experience with some of his friends. Rather than supporting and affirming this experience however, they were negative about Dean’s desire to pursue a professional career and better himself. In spite of this negative feedback, Dean committed himself to this pursuit in as many ways as possible.
Although difficult, he recognized that some of these judgemental friends were holding him back. Dean Kosage describes it like a bus ride: “Say you are on a trip to Canada, and then suddenly you realize that you want to go to Africa. You need to get off the bus and take a different one. It doesn’t mean that the people going to Canada are bad people, but you are simply heading in different directions.” This is what anchoring to your decisions is all about; creating the best possible environment for your success and making the executive decision about your relationships, career, and physical environment in order to do so. “If I came into your house,” he says, “would you have to tell me who you are, or would your house speak so loud that it could tell me for you?” This simple shift in mentality is a huge part of finding success according to Dean. You have to commit your life fully to the pursuit of your goals; surround yourself with an environment conducive to them, and eventually success will find you.
In a recent interview with the online podcast Unmistakable Creative, Dean described the process of anchoring to one’s decisions that led to the success he has reached today. He tells the story of seeing a group of men walk into a gym, and the impact they had on his life. He realized straight away that these men were accomplished professionals based on just their image. After speaking with them and discussing his desire to be involved in their entrepreneurial world, he shared this experience with some of his friends. Rather than supporting and affirming this experience however, they were negative about Dean’s desire to pursue a professional career and better himself. In spite of this negative feedback, Dean committed himself to this pursuit in as many ways as possible.
Although difficult, he recognized that some of these judgemental friends were holding him back. Dean Kosage describes it like a bus ride: “Say you are on a trip to Canada, and then suddenly you realize that you want to go to Africa. You need to get off the bus and take a different one. It doesn’t mean that the people going to Canada are bad people, but you are simply heading in different directions.” This is what anchoring to your decisions is all about; creating the best possible environment for your success and making the executive decision about your relationships, career, and physical environment in order to do so. “If I came into your house,” he says, “would you have to tell me who you are, or would your house speak so loud that it could tell me for you?” This simple shift in mentality is a huge part of finding success according to Dean. You have to commit your life fully to the pursuit of your goals; surround yourself with an environment conducive to them, and eventually success will find you.
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